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Thursday’s Romantic Thought: I Will Find You

“So, I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you.”

―Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Thursday’s Romantic Thought: Kissing in the Rain

Two lovers in the rain

have no need of an umbrella.

~Japanese Proverb

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Where The Good Men Are – 4 Ways to Recognize Them

Where The Good Men Are

(Yes, this post’s title should hopefully remind us of Maurice Sendak’s beloved children’s picture book Where the Wild Things Are.)

Lately, and with good reason, many women have been publicly lamenting how men continue to let down our collective society. In many ways, this is nothing new, and on many accounts, sadly, I see no lies. However, while many of these musings are narratives that should and must be shared with the world, we also desperately need to hear of the men – our family members, friends, people in our communities – who are doing things right. We all know a good man when we see one.

What Makes A Man A “Good” One?

The criteria for being considered a “good man” are really rather basic: Be honest, work hard, never harm, and care

Yup. That’s about it. I think that pretty much covers it. Fin. 

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Alright, if you insist, I’ll elaborate.

1. He’s Honest.

Under this category, please include: fidelity, truthfulness, and loyalty. This also means communicating in all aspects, verbally, physically, and emotionally. It means doing the right thing, even when it’s uncomfortable, and knowing exactly what the right thing is because you know your Mama and Daddy taught you the difference between right and wrong.

2. He Works Hard.

Now, this one is deceptively trickier. Working hard certainly means having a job that pays, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be singularly with cash. Of course, being able to support your family financially is most ideal, and most of the time with the unequal pay gap, necessary. However, working hard also means offering support in the role of a care-giver. Provide for yourself and family to the absolute best of your ability by giving of yourself in any way that you can.

This is a really rough one for many men, because traditionally, the role is to be the “bread winner”. What if there are reasons that prevent you from being that? Many Vets are struggling to come back home to us in one piece, both mentally and physically. It saddens me deeply to know that on top of those struggles, there’s the added pressure of having to maintain an expected persona that can’t always be maintained. When you’re doing your best, you’re working hard. We should all strive to make our best even better over time.

3. He Would Never Harm.

Yeah, apparently, this one seems to be the confusing one for a lot of people. Don’t do things that wouldn’t feel good to you if someone were to do them to you. Ugh.

As much as I want to harp on this one, there’s no point. If people lack an empathetic bone in their bodies, it will be impossible for them to imagine what life must be like in someone else’s shoes. So, I can just say, no gaslighting, cover ups, systemic abuse in any way shape or form. Please.

4. He Cares.

Please, my dear – simply just give a damn. Again, this is a call for empathy. Don’t just care about yourself or your boys; care for the children, the women, the men who are lost, the elderly, the animals, the friggin’ planet, something, ANYTHING other than just your favorite sports team, game, or super hero.

All Sides of the Coin

If you’ve gotten this far, you’ll know that this list is just a basic call for human decency. No matter how you identify, hopefully all of us can see the merit in striving for all of these things. Sure, we all make mistakes, but if we go back up to the first one – being honest – we will own up to those mistakes and strive to do better. We all need to hold ourselves up to better standards, because we all deserve better.

Does this list sound like Mission Impossible to you? Is this why romantic tropes seem to hit these points again and again like a sledgehammer? Maybe so. But to you men out there who seem to hit each and every point time and time again, thank you. Thank you for being a part of my life and a part of this world.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

 

Thursday’s Romantic Thought: Perfect Imperfection

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Happy German Unity Day! (Tag Der deutschen Einheit)

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I would be remiss not to blog on a day that will forever be etched in my heart. Way back in the Land Before Time, 1989, I was a just a little slip of a thing, and it was way past my bedtime. I remember being completely disoriented as my mom woke me from my dreamless sleep, excitement in her voice.

“Girls!” she whispered. “Wake up! You need to see this.”

My sister and I clamored out our beds; I know that I was still little enough to have pajama bottoms with the footies on the end of them. As we stood in front of the television rubbing our sleepy eyes, my parents watched on in excitement, joy making their eyes wide and bright.

“Remember this.” My mom said as she pulled us close into a tight hug. “You’re watching history happen.”

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Years later, this memory would end up taking on so much more significance in my life, and each time October 3rd rolls around, I remember this day with gratitude and tears in my eyes for so many reasons. “Die Mauer ist weg.” And I have an amazing family, and my child has a phenomenal history.

Es ist nicht realistisch zu denken, dass unser Demokratie Fehlerfrei ist. Es gibt Momente wo ich die Schlagzeilen lesen und denke, ach Gott, wo sind wir nun gelandet? Aber ich weiß, dass Deutschland, genauso wie Amerika, immer noch viel zu feiern hat. Die deutsche Wiedervereinigung symbolisiert die Hoffnung, und kein Mensch soll sie aufgeben. Ein Mauer steht noch vor uns, und diesmal müssen wir unsern Herzen öffnen. Es ist kein leichter Weg, aber wir schaffen es!

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

 

Thursday’s Romantic Thought: Don’t Hold Back

“When I give, I give myself.”

   -Walt Whitman

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Falling in Love with Fall – 3 Things to Do This Autumn Season

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Now that Fall is officially among us, this is the perfect time to celebrate all things cozy and fun. For some reason, I am especially looking forward to Autumn this year (and not just because the San Diego summer temperatures were so brutal)! First of all, October is my birth month, so I’m looking forward to making the absolute most of it. What are some things that we can do this month to celebrate the awesomeness of the new season? Here are a few ideas…

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Do Something with Pumpkins.

This one kind of feels like a no-brainer, but it needs to be said. Even if you aren’t a fan of the taste of pumpkin – ahem, that would be me – don’t throw a pout-fest because everything is suddenly all things orange. I love the color, and nothing is more exciting than going some place away from the hustle and bustle to find a good old-fashioned Pumpkin Patch. There’s fun to be had for all ages, be it a hayride, a pumpkin decorating contest, or searching for the ultimate pumpkin to take home.

Also, you can really go all out and ask your local food banks or shelters if they have any need or desire for fresh pumpkins. One thing that really drives me crazy about this time of year is our ridiculous sense of waste. Pumpkins are fun to decorate, but remember that they can be consumed and enjoyed! Dry out the seeds and roast them for a surprisingly tasty treat.

Cozy Up and Snuggle In

You know that as of this year, I’ve become a huge fan of quilting, so of course I have to recommend getting under some sort of cozy blanket. Even writing that sentence made me sigh deeply with satisfaction. Honestly, even if you don’t make your own little snuggle  quilt, get one wherever you can, claim it as your own – and never let it go.

One of the most beautiful things about this fall season is that each day gives you the opportunity to snuggle up with the ones you love, as well was the things we love. Speaking of cozying up to things we love…

Grab a Great Book and Hunker Down

What would Fall be without embracing the chance to fall in love time and time again? There are so many amazing books to get into, and I’m happy to share a few that are on my list of Autumn cozies: Alyssa Cole’s A Duke by Default (Reluctant Royals #2) has gained so much organic traction, I would be remiss not to grab a copy myself! I can’t wait to read my first story by the author, and I’m sure that it won’t be the last. Tessa Dare’s The Governess Game (Girl Meets Duke #2) is also on my list, as it has been widely acclaimed well beyond the realm of Romancelandia. Lastly, Helen Hoang’s The Kiss Quotient is just one that has been floating around in the back of my mind for a while, and so it’s time to go and scratch that itch. Of course, there are many others on my list – outside of romance *gasp*!

What are some of the things that you love to do during the Autumn season? Drop a comment below and share. I’d love to hear from you! Until then, enjoy this happy, colorful season.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

 

Thursday’s Romantic Thought: Radiant Love

“Love, whether newly born, or aroused from a death-like slumber, must always create sunshine, filling the heart so full of radiance, that it overflows upon the outward world.”

                                                             – Nathaniel Hawthorne

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, writing. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Thursday’s Romantic Thought: Never-ending Love Stories

“True love stories never have endings.”

– Richard Bach

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, writing. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

An Advocate for Decency

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Hopefully, you’ve had a great Labor Day weekend if you’re here in the United States! It seems apropos to talk about the value of hard work and the necessity of maintaining work ethics by talking about the obvious attempt to shame a man for actually working hard to earn a living for his family and himself. Apparently, some news outlets (which I will not name here, but they are posted within this article) actually ran an article that showed Geoffrey Owens, an actor who – practically a lifetime ago – was a minor recurring character on The Cosby Show. Apparently, he currently works as a cashier at a Trader Joe’s grocery store. The intention of the article was not to inform, but to publicly shame and humiliate a man who is simply making an honest living. 

I have a HUGE problem with this. My blog topics may be somewhat sporadic, but my ultimate goal is to focus on the basic necessities for nurturing the human spirit – happiness, love, and light. It’s a shame that I have to add DECENCY to this list of basics. What in the world would posses a person to take a photo of someone hard at work – and then distribute it to news media outlets? What kind of “news” outlet picks this story up, and gives such a negative spin to what is ultimately a wonderful example for young men and women EVERYWHERE?

There is NO shame in working to make an honest living. Period.

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Fortunately, once the story had gained enough traction, many actors and other celebrities were quick to jump on Twitter to defend Mr. Owens. They shared stories of their own struggles to make ends meet, and the fact that Geoffrey Owens is a working actor with a day job. Because of this – and only because of this outpouring of support and candidness from his peers, did the media’s negative narrative finally make a positive spin on this “story”.

For those of us who are in the Creative or Performing Arts, a vast majority of us understand exactly what it means to have (or need) a day job: It means that you are true to yourself and your craft by working in that field as much as you can afford, and you also work a “day job”, something that your heart is less committed to than your craft, in order to pay the bills.

The fact that the abhorrent person who took this man’s picture without his consent disturbs me to no end. I don’t wish to include my picture on social media because I believe in the right to privacy. My students and clients are not specifically invited to this little corner of my world. Will this always be the case? Of course not. As I devote more time to this job, circumstances will change to a point where a face needs to appear with a name. Until that point, however, I hope to have a choice as to what picture defines who “I” am. This man was robbed of his right to privacy, his right to anonymously do the honorable thing of pushing pride aside and working a non-glamourous job for a steady paycheck. Shame on that person who tried to dishonor a fellow human being.

How Glamorous is Your Life?

Seriously, I am so livid about this. This kind of “above/below your station” mentality is exactly the reason why I am so committed to the Arts. It’s also the reason why I earned my Ph.D. in an unrelated field. I love to cross paths and connect dots. It takes credibility in this world to convince others of what may seem obvious to you, and that was the path I was led to take. The only way that we can remind each other of the beauty and simplicity of EVERY DAY LIFE is if we are taught to see ourselves in the every day lives of others, regardless of race, gender, culture, self-identification, or creed. If only we can retain those lessons!

What glamorous life are you truly living? Doing our best to lead one of Grace and kindness is so much more appealing.

Sending Love, Light, and a sense of Decency to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

“I Want You to Have It All”

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If you’ve ever had a little human in your life, then you’ll understand the meaning of repetition. We are a very musical family, and my husband and I are thrilled beyond reason to see how musically inclined our little one already is. Because we want to expose those little ears to as many genres as possible, when a song comes up that we parents believe has multifaceted value, well, upon approval from our little boss, that song enters our daily rotation.

The current song of the day/week/ possibly month(s) is Have It All by Jason Mraz. Or, as my #Toddler calls it, the Happy Face Song (thanks to the single’s album cover). We happened to hear the song during our return road trip from the East Bay, and it’s really just a lovely, kind song that simply wishes you well. In this day and age, I found it to be a refreshing moment to turn on the radio, and actually hear a song on “mainstream radio” that only had good, wholesome things to say listeners of all ages.

No worries; I’m not on a soapbox or anything. Then again, maybe I am. I don’t know who the singer is, really. Maybe his name sounds familiar, but I can’t recall any previous singles, and I’m not going to take the time to research. (I’ve got deadlines, people.) And yes, when I first heard the song, I highly suspected that the singer would be wearing some kind of quirky hipster hat, and a ukulele would make an appearance in the video (AND I WAS RIGHT). Despite this, all I know is that I listened to the upbeat song, absorbed the lyrics, and thanked a stranger for wishing me  to have it all. Now, every morning, my little toddler demands the Happy Face Song during our family breakfast. On repeat. Thank you, Mr. Mraz! (No sarcasm intended.)I-want-you-to-have-it-all

If you haven’t heard the song, check out the video here. If you, like me, have no time or desire to slip down rabbit holes in YouTubelandia, just check out the awesome lyrics below.

What songs have been an inspiration to you? What songs are on rotation and make you want to smile, get up and dance, or hug someone? Definitely share them in the comments. I’d love to add them to our rotation!

May you have auspiciousness and causes of success
May you have the confidence to always do your best
May you take no effort in your being generous
Sharing what you can, nothing more nothing less
May you know the meaning of the word happiness
May you always lead from the beating in your chest
May you be treated like an esteemed guest
May you get to rest, may you catch your breath
And may the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows
And may the road less paved be the road that you follow
Well here’s to the hearts that you’re gonna break
Here’s to the lives that you’re gonna change
Here’s to the infinite possible ways to love you
I want you to have it
Here’s to the good times we’re gonna have
You don’t need money, you got a free pass
Here’s to the fact that I’ll be sad without you
I want you to have it all
May you be as fascinating as a slap bracelet
May you keep the chaos and the clutter off your desk
May you have unquestionable health and less stress
Having no possessions though immeasurable wealth
May you get a gold star on your next test
May your educated guesses always be correct
And may you win prizes shining like diamonds
May you really own it each moment to the next…
Songwriters: Becky Gebhardt / Mai Bloomfield / Mona Tavakoli / Chaska Potter / Jacob Kasher / David Hodges / Jason Mraz
Have It All lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, writing. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Having A Bad Day? 5 Ways to Improve Your Mood

So you’re having a bad day. Man, that sucks. Sorry to hear that. If you don’t have someone to pep you up right when you need it most, well, like everything else, the burden is on you. Here are ways to improve your mood when you’re having a bad day.

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1. Throw Yourself a Pity Party for One.

Why not? You deserve it (I guess). Find a soft place to land, shake your fist at the universe, drop a few ugly tears, punch a pillow, use the choice words of your choice, and then…

2. Indulge.

After you’ve lamented and allowed yourself to feel as low as you’re willing to go, now’s the time to reconnect with your inner child and ask him or her what is needed to make the boo-boo better. Do you need chocolate? Binge-watching your favorite show? Retail therapy (window-shopping style)? A quick trip to your favorite restaurant?

Do something that you know will bring those happy endorphins back to the surface. Let it be in moderation, and let it serve as a reminder to you that you can still be happy, even in this bad day moment.

3. Remember: A Day Lasts Only 24-Hours.

No more, no less. Even when you just want to roll over in a corner and wait for this day to end, just remember that no matter what you do, the day will end. Eventually, the clock will strike 12 and a new day will begin.

Will the fact that a new day has begun eradicate the pain and damage that the bad day had wrought? Of course not. Don’t be silly. But the truth remains – the only way to heal or recover from any setback, no matter how large or small, is to take things one day at a time.

4. Reach Out.

This may sound a bit counterintuitive, but hear me out. When you feel like total crap, of course somewhere in the recesses of your mind, you’ll likely hear a voice reminding you that others have it worse.

Meh. In the age of the almighty Selfie, that voice may be very weak.

Instead, just go ahead think about yourself. (Yes, I said that.) You know you want to do that anyway, so just go ahead and do it. Think about how good YOU will feel when you do something positive or helpful for someone else. It’s up to you to decide how to do it. Sure, the easiest ways often involve money, but not as much as you may think.

Remember the “Pay It Forward” concept? In one example, one guy paid for the burger combo for the guy behind him, and then that guy paid for the woman behind him and so on until there was a chain of folks just eating burgers and making others happy. (Alright, a huge part of me wants to know who the person was who stopped the chain and said, “A free meal? Cool, thanks.” And moved on. Which was also totally okay.)

Anyway, you know what I mean. While you’re indulging on your treat of choice (see #2), maybe see if you can share it with someone else. It’s a scientific fact that making others feel positive makes your thoughts more positive as well.

5. MOVE FORWARD.

This part is always the hardest part. It’s so easy to get caught up in self-pity (#1), and kind hover between steps 1 and 2. But you don’t want to remain in an insect pattern, because you may never get out of it.

Start looking for a way to improve your disposition, situation, outlook on things, etc. You don’t have to do this alone. Even if you haven’t got someone near who can’t get past thinking about themselves, there are resources that anyone can use for free in the US. With a quick Google search, I found these two resources:

https://www.7cups.com

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

One Bad Day Does Not Define You

We all have bad days. I know that I had one yesterday. My husband and parents were super supportive and made sure to call me and talk to me throughout the day to reassure me that I’m not alone, I’m loved, and supported. Of course, that helps me move forward at a much faster pace than having to go at it completely alone. But in the end, moving forward and making sure that the one bad day is just an isolated event is what should define you, not the setback itself.

Wishing you the best of days, and even better ones to come!

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, writing. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

 

Romantic Thoughts Thursday: Embrace One Another

“We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another.”

– Luciano de Crescenzo

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest for more.

Let Go, or Be Dragged

The moment of truth has finally arrived.

My university sent a work offer to me for the 2018-2019 academic year, and I actually turned it down.

This is so incredibly scary, and knowing that the odds of quantifiable success in the Creative Arts are against me makes this an even more terrifying decision, but despite the anxiety and the huge bitter dose of reality (OMG, am I really going to do this???), I know without a sliver of doubt in my mind that I have made the right decision. Still, although I’ve declined the university’s offer, I do intend to initiate some sort of way to bring in additional income besides my writing, which I’m sure will make quite a few interesting blog entires.

My hubby and I have had so many talks about this, and on Father’s Day, he said one particular thing that really resonated with me. He looked me in the eye and said, “You’re an artist. You absolutely have to create. If you don’t, you get physically ill until you’re doing something creative again. As much as you keep trying to convince yourself to go a traditional route, something inside you is always going to resist. Why not take a chance and just follow your calling?”

After hearing such heartfelt words of truth, naturally I briefly bawled like a baby, and then I fought the urge to eat an ice-cream sandwich because I’m in the middle of a 3-day juice cleanse (more on that later). Without a doubt, I’ve been aware of all of those things that he expressed for a long time. To be honest, he’s been encouraging me to “go for it” for the past 5 years. Nevertheless, I’ve been purposely holding myself back. Yes, I’ve written 5 novels in that amount of time, but always on the side, almost as an afterthought. But, dear readers, hold onto your seats: At the beginning of this month, I actually bit the bullet and formally started my own business. This rollercoaster ride is now official.

Yes, I know the statistics about the frequency of small businesses failing, and I know that this won’t be easy. But even if it fails to generate ‘substantial’ cash flow, I already know that this venture will not be a failure. This is an experience that I simply have to go through, and as my husband so eloquently stated in one brilliant moment, as an artist, I simple must create.

For those of you who understand the struggle, calling yourself an artist isn’t the least bit conceited. Actually, it isn’t even a compliment, really. It’s a public confession that you are a person who is a servant of Expression, addicted to communicating, and is an incurable optimist who can’t let go of things like hope, love, or sentimentality – despite the fact that the number one driving force in the world of “success” is monetary gain.

There is a Zen proverb that says “Let go, or be dragged.” This is exactly what my head and heart are saying now. If I continue to work this dead-end career that brings me less and less fulfillment year after year, then it will continue to bring me down; not only emotionally, but physically as well. So, the only logical solution is the let go. (Why do you think that song from Frozen was such a success? Straight up sound advice.)

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So, Lovies – here goes. Fingers crossed!

After the initial celebratory “Wow, that’s awesome! You’re so brave!” conversations, the real questions will start to come up. Far too often these days, people start popping up with fantastic ideas and amazing energy; yet after a month or so, the excitement starts to wane, and then the honeymoon is over. As in a real marriage, starting your own business as a writer, even initially part-time (which is a smart thing to do), is something that takes real commitment. We all know that anything called a “part-time” job only means that less $$$ lands in your pocket – by no means does it indicate less work on your end!

I’ve decided to concentrate on what I consider to be the basics, and I’ll be more than happy to share what they are in future posts.

For now, I’m going to enjoy a few moments of relaxation and solitude, add to my ever-growing list of Things That Must Be Done, and CTFD. Seriously. If you could feel the excitement in my words right now, you would think that I’m some sort of toddler who just can’t sit still for anything. It’s always easy to talk about things that you want to do, and it’s often fun to dream about them; but to really look yourself in the mirror, make the decision to turn a dream into a goal AND THEN GO FOR IT is something that really should be celebrated.

Being a highly-critical psudo-perfectionist, I have extreme difficulty accepting praise and being content with my work. This is one of the prominent disadvantages of being a classically trained vocalist. There’s always one more tweak, one level higher to aim for. Because I know that I’ll never completely eradicate that aspect of my personality (and for many reasons, I don’t even want to), I am learning to accept more zen-like perspectives and adapt them into my daily life.

Let go, or be dragged. 

How many times have you had an inner conflict that led you to just want to walk away from it all, but something always held you back from taking that final step? Obviously, I’ve been there. I’ve just overcome the paralysis (again). This step is probably just as crazy as when I left all that I knew and loved in the United States to be with the man I loved (and still do) in Europe. I was scared to death, terrified of the unknown, but it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I can only hope and pray that this one will also lead me to more joy, happiness, and contentment. And any financial windfall that comes about would be welcomed, too. 😉

My last words of advice are pretty simple: Let your bravery dictate your next actions, and not the other way around.

©Atina Atwood 2018 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. 

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