Motivational Monday: Find a Way to Get What You Want

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“When you know what you want and want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to get it.” – Jim Rohn

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

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©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

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Love is a Teacher

Love is a great master. It teaches us to be what we never were.

“Love is a great master. It teaches us to be what we never were.” – Molière

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

Luck of the Irish, Holiday Heartbeats#3, is now available for preorder. Remember to join my mailing list for a chance to win a free copy of Meant To Be Broken, A Carolina Clay novel by Brandy Woods Snow! The winner will be announced on July 2nd.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

5 Ways to Make the Most Out of Less

Do More By Doing Less

I’m finding myself in need of some inspiration for the summer.

Don’t get me wrong – even though the next fews weeks are going to be a lot less huffing and puffing in the work-work-chug-along, I’ve still got a To-Do list that’s a mile long. But don’t we all – and in this day and age, don’t we always?

My goal this summer is actually to do LESS.

This ought to sound like an amazing list, but to be honest, it’s one of the toughest ones I’ve created in a long time. So far, I only have 5 things on it:

Worry less.

Dude, just don’t watch the news. Just. Don’t.

Sit less.

It’s so tempting to find that cozy little nook and let one of the most gorgeous times of year pass you by, but your body needs you to show it a little more TLC. Besides, you’ll get more Vitamin D in the process, so it’s a win-win.

Eat less.

Okay, so summer is a wonderful time to eat whatever you want and eat as much of it as you can. (As an unashamed Foodie, I also call this the Foodie International Anthem.) Actually, this point alone could be misleading; Personally, I have a tendency to under-eat. Here, I simply mean “eat less” of what you know you shouldn’t.

Buy less.

Hey, if I could, I know I would buy more, but to be honest, it’s still a little hard for me to be specific about exactly what I’d buy with a huge sum of money. Probably, true Millennial style, I’d still lean towards experiences, but I’m starting to get to the point where I want to develop some roots. To do that, it takes this thing called “substantial savings”. I know, I know – in today’s economy, especially in suburban California, that’s like saying “Find a unicorn, make it your pet, and then teach it how to speak five languages fluently.” Still, we hope. (Unicorns exist somewhere, right?)

Try less.

This last one is a doozy for me. I am probably the hardest tryer I’ve ever met. Sure, often I succeed. Yet, most of the time, I’m far too busy trying to learn something new, and at the same time, I’m trying to find the perfect way to reinvent the wheel when all I really need is a paddle. In the end, I’m more exhausted than anything. My ultimate goal is to simply be a doer – skip the middleman of trying and just get right to the doing already.

Who knows how successful I’ll be with this summer list. Ultimately, each day that I follow through, crossing one thing off of my list, I’ll already be doing a fantastic job of being a success.

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What does your summer look like? Do you still have new goals for this year, or are you still on course for accomplishing the ones you (may or may not have) established six months ago? Feel free to share in the comments below.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

Luck of the Irish, Holiday Heartbeats #3, is now available for preorder. Remember to join my mailing list for a chance to win a free copy of Meant To Be Broken, A Carolina Clay novelby Brandy Woods Snow! The winner will be announced on July 2nd.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

Motivated Monday: What the Optimists and Pessimists See

the pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. the optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.

“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity.
The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

Luck of the Irish, Holiday Heartbeats#3, is now available for preorder. Remember to join my mailing list for a chance to win a free copy of Meant To Be Broken, A Carolina Clay novel by Brandy Woods Snow! The winner will be announced on July 2nd.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

Love is Seeing Imperfection Perfectly

Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
– Sam Keen

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

Luck of the Irish, Holiday Heartbeats#3, is now available for preorder.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

When You Don’t Hit the Mark

Almost – But Not Quite

First of all, Happy June! It’s hard to believe that we’re already halfway through the year. (No pressure, calendar goal-setters.)

I went for some pretty big things last month – and two out of four times, I didn’t get what I wanted. Granted, on those two occasions where I didn’t get what I wanted, both times I was “close”. To me, being “close” is more aggravating than missing the thing by a long shot.

You’d think I’d be concentrating on the two awesome things that totally went right, but no. That’s not the way we humans are wired. Instead, I’ve kinda brushed off the two victories and moped around focused on the one thing out of the four that I sort of wasn’t sure I wanted in the first place (because it has nothing to do with writing) but went for it anyway… and almost got. It’s the “almost” part that I’m obsessing over.

It’s when you can see your target clear as day. You take a deep breath, aim and shoot – and you miss it by a quarter of an inch. You ask yourself why things went only slightly off-kilter. Was it something you did? Was it the wind? What happened in those last seconds before you let the arrow fly?

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Now, you’re at a crossroads. Yes, it feels quite comfortable to mope around for a little while, get some extra confirmation that the ones who “wronged” you are jerks and be reminded by the inevitable cockeyed-optimists that “Rejection is God’s protection”. (In that case, I’m incredibly sheltered, lol.) But what happens after that?

Set a Time Limit for Getting Over Rejection

As for me, I like setting timelines for my pity-parties. I can wallow and mope all I want for that set length of time, and then when that time is up, I can look at the situation from a more pragmatic perspective. After that, I reassess my goals, tweak my strategies, set my targets and go for them – again and again, and again. If I don’t use this method, I can imagine that it could become difficult to emerge from the self-pity cycle. So I don’t give it a chance to stay long.

I think this method worked perfectly for me when I was a performer, and at this stage in my life, I can already see how useful it’s going to be as I start approaching larger, more intimidating entities as I start asking for what I want. Sound crazy? Well, in a way, it is. But, if your goal is really what you want, you’ll do what it takes to get to it. The challenges are simply a means to an end.

What methods do you use to help you stay track towards achieving your goals? What do you do when you reach a setback that distracts you from appreciating the progress you’ve already made? I’d love to hear from you. (I’d also love some ice cream, so send some over. I already have a spoon in my pocket.)

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

Motivated Monday: You Were Born for a Reason

Find Your Why

THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS OF YOUR LIFE ARE THE DAY YOU WERE BORN AND THE DAY YOU FIND OUT WHY.-2

“The two most important days of your life are the day you were born
and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

Romantic Quote: I Want Better for You

Romantic Quote:

“Never underestimate the importance of having someone in your life who makes you want to be a better person.” – Dauvoire

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Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

 

Thanks to All for Giving Your All – Memorial Day

If there is nothing else we can do to show our appreciation for our Veterans and Service Members on this Memorial Day, we can do these three things:

1. Say thank you – and mean it

2. Donate time and money to local Vet services

3. Remember and acknowledge the unfathomable sacrifices vets, service members, and their families have made for our country.

THANK YOU.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.

Confession: I’ve Never Watched GOT

Game of Thrones & Real Game Changers

Okay, so a day or two has passed since the last episode of the 8th (and somewhat infamous) season of Game of Thrones has aired. People are still coping, many are still fuming, and other, more pro-active folks are using their energies to create petitions to completely redo the last season of the multi-million dollar show. Meanwhile, some provocative legislature on women’s reproductive autonomy is being passed like wildfire in many states, and even the president is saying “Whoa, Nelly” on Alabama’s extreme, newly passed abortion law. Under this specific law, women and children would be forced to give birth to babies forced upon them in depraved, violent, and profoundly traumatizing circumstances, namely rape and incest.

I am personally Pro-Life and I’m also 100% Pro-Women’s Health and reproductive-autonomy. We’re treading a dangerous line when our society is once again turning blame and shame to only the female populous. The growing lack of consideration for women and girls is increasing at an alarming rate. When this argument reaches the Supreme Court – as it inevitably will – our country needs to be prepared to accept full responsibility for the health and safety of all, whatever the outcome. At this point, we’re already failing pregnant and post-partum mothers in myriad ways. It’s increasingly becoming more deadly and costly for mothers to safely give birth to their children in America, especially for women of color (specifically, Black women). More American women are dying of pregnancy-related complications than any other developed country in the world. No wonder our birthrate is declining.

But let’s go back to Game of Thrones, a show that I have never seen.

 

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GOT on HBO

Apparently, the show took place in a medieval-like society with 7 kingdoms containing royalty, dragons, slaves, and zombies. People loved it until well, the end, and now there’s a big hole where folks had made space for a “satisfying” ending.

Why am I writing about this show if I’ve never seen it? Well, because it all has to do with writing, of course.

Game of Thrones is based on the books written by George R.R. Martin. He’s written five books of what he initially planned to be a 7-book series, but the most recent book came out eight long years ago in 2011. Coincidentally, that’s also the year of the HBO series’ first season. According to this article, Martin shared major ideas for how he wanted the books to end with the main show writers years in advance.

Now, as a writer, I find a lot of this to be highly interesting. First of all,  the author is a genius because once he landed that HBO deal and the show took off like a juggernaut, the man said, “Wait, let me see how all of this turns out before I toss another precious book baby into the world.” The whole time, people are buying merchandise, subscribing to HBO, devouring his books as canon, and some have even gone so far as to name their offspring after some of his characters.

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(I have no idea what this baby’s real name is. But look at those ROLLS!!)

Why would Martin disrupt that flow of interest and devotion by presenting another book until after the show has ended? Will he even release another one at all?

Watching all of this from the sidelines is interesting because most writers like to imagine what it would be like to have their work shared with, and appreciated by, millions. Very few people understand the struggle and heartache it takes to create a cohesive, alternative world as well as all of the beings that live within them. Many of us are happy if our work reaches a few hundred or *gasp* a couple of thousand people.

Now, Martin has the wonderful option of deciding whether or not to finish the series, or tour forever talking about ways he would have written it differently, or ride the wave of all of the continued hype and actually drop the next book installment with a continuation of the author’s solid character arcs that apparently disintegrated in the final season’s adaptation of the saga (this happens so often, it’s almost cliché). To be fair, the show’s writers no longer had any books to base the final season on, so there’s that.

No matter how we sum it up, in the end, author George R.R. Martin is clearly the biggest winner of all.

What are your thoughts about the last season? Have you read any (or all) of the books? I’m enjoying seeing how impassioned people are about all of this, and I’d love to hear your take.

Sending Love and Light to all of you.

©Atina Atwood 2019 Exploring Love and Life, One Word At A Time.™

– Atina Atwood is a southern girl who moved from Europe to the West Coast. A former university professor in Germany and California, Atina stepped away from Academia to focus on her miracle child, life, love, food, quilting, and of course, Romance. She is the author of the Holiday Heartbeats series. Follow her on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook for more, and sign up for Atina’s newsletter here.