So, my social media has been blowing up with posts about how this man Blake Shelton can’t have possibly been named People Magazine’s #SexiestManAlive when there are so many jaw-dropingly fabulous handsome male celebrities in the world. They proceeded to list drool-worthy men and went into minute detail about how delicious these men look, et cetera, et cetera, ad nauseam. These posts were from women for whom I have respect and while their comments were amusing, they were also very disturbing.
First of all, what exactly males a man “sexy”? Is it just about his looks, or is it more than that? As a romance novelist, to me, sexiness spans far beyond looking like Adonis, and as a woman, I certainly want to believe that my sexiness is a culmination of many of my admirable traits – not just limited to my looks, but including them. My characters would be painfully one-dimensional if all they could do was walk around the earth looking like a “10” – and have no other desirable traits to speak of.
Secondly, the second half of 2017 has been a whirlwind of women and men who have felt emboldened enough to come forward with accounts of being objectified, reduced, even violated by men in powerful positions. I wonder if People Magazine wanted to focus on a man with minimal controversy surrounding him, and who also has cultivated an approachable, relatively uncomplicated persona. I ask myself if the editors thought that he was a “safe bet”. I know that he isn’t a supermodel, but I’m not offended when I see his face. (I’m personally not attracted to him, but so what?) From what I understand, he is a successful, multitalented man who is known to work towards charitable causes, has a pretty solid fanbase and is happy with his girlfriend. Whether or not you find all of that to be sexy is entirely up to you.
Finally, I also just want to politely point out that people seem to be spending more time talking about BS* than they are about real issues like the above-mentioned, or the new, highly controversial, leaking pipeline, or the passing of the most recent Tax Reform. It amazes me how butt-hurt some intelligent people have become because an entertainment magazine called Blake Shelton* “the sexiest”. We all do realize that this moniker is subjective, right? I mean, if you’re bothered by it, it’s okay. Blake will be fine. The man has his millions, his fame, his girlfriend, and the coveted title – with or without your approval.
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